Aspiring to perfection is a deeply grounded concept that resides in our society. It is this concept that creates a whole set of weird standards that we all measure each other by.
Achievements, body figure, looks, talents, social skills, financial success… All of these are parts of our lives that are perpetually measured by these “perfection” standards that we came up with and that we endlessly try to live up to.
The problem is that, since they are ultimately unachievable, they will end up inevitably generating a great amount of distress in our minds and bodies.
I am no exception to this phenomenon. And, just as many of you do, I have suffered a lot of the consequences of trying to reach the expected levels of “perfection” that society has constantly bombarded me with.
Throughout my life I have tried so hard to look better, dress better, speak better, be smarter, be more social, have a better job, have a wider set of skills… And the only result I’ve ever got out of all these efforts was frustration, stress and anxiety.
Trying hard to achieve a goal that was designed to never be reached can only bring negative outcome to your life.
I tried so hard to be the best son, brother, friend, boyfriend, lover, artist, designer… and all of this based purely on what people told me or seemed to show that they expected of me. And I did it for so long that I ended up losing myself and my essence. In the lapse of 2015 through 2016 I went through the darkest period of my times. I had no idea who I was, what I wanted or what really made me happy, because I had been living my entire life trying to please others and fit in to be accepted, to blend in and to avoid getting bullied.
I had to rediscover myself by trying many different things—I still am in this process—and I ended up getting hurt a lot and very confused in most of the cases, but at the end of the day, I learned so much from all these trials and errors.
I firmly believe that God or Destiny or “The Greater Essence of The Universe”—whatever you want to call it—always seems to provide the right tools for us to learn from difficult times—but of course, it’s up to us to notice, test and learn how to use these tools so that we can actually learn—.
In my case, precisely in 2015, I ended up living in a place where I was surrounded by a select group of individuals who were deeply focused on finding their energetic and spiritual essence in order to achieve true success in life.
These people were calm, easygoing, tolerant, inclusive and accepting. So they helped creating the perfect environment for anyone to learn how to find themselves.
I had a catharsis. I learned that the strongest voice and the strongest opinion in your life when making decisions is only yours. But you need keep your ears open so that you never stop learning from others.
I learned that there’s not such a thing as perfection. And that aspiring to reach that goal was just helpless and pointless. You should create your own goals based exactly on who you are and what you want to achieve. You need to create your own version of perfection and only measure yourself by that one custom set of rules.
Trying to fulfill social expectations will never bring happiness or true success to your life. But if you stay true to your own standards and your own goals, you will start noticing that being a better person and a more motivated individual just comes naturally.
This is why I started creating symbols and visuals that would work as mementos of those key concepts that help me avoid The Anxiety of Imperfection. And I invite you to study it and create your own set of reminders that will help you stay true to your own essence and goals.